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Dec 4 14 12:08 PM

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I am now doing well enough that my Suboxone Provider has allowed me to decrease visits to every EIGHT weeks!! The holidays are a stressors because it is the FIRST Christmas that my family has introduced the possibility of bringing Dave (my bf of 4 1/2 yrs) home with me, 50-60 miles away! With his Bipolar Symptoms, it will be an exercise in stress management and trust in my God!! If he gets agitated or overwhelmed and we're dependent on my family to get home, it could go bad...QUICKLY!! I am having horribly anxious thoughts about it ALREADY!!! 
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Dec 4 14 8:49 PM

Oh wow...yeah sometimes family can agitate situations when all brought together in holiday cheer..lol

Maybe you could ask him to find some extra coping skills deep down inside his soul for the day??

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Dec 5 14 3:07 AM

Every time I make a suggestion...

Anytime I suggest that something or some situation COULD be handled in a more effective way, he either:
A) Interprets it as me pointing out his faults (even when stated nicely)
B) Comes up with some excuse as to why my suggestion wouldn't/couldn't work
OR

C)Justifies the behavior/way of dealing with things in some ridiculous, irrational way. 
**Hence , my ceasing to suggest anything to help (He'd either dismiss it or get defensive making it worse)

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Dec 5 14 5:17 AM

That sounds really difficult XJ, if he won't even listen to constructive advice that comes from a place of love and support. I don't know if I could put up with that!! Even if he doesn't want to take up your suggestions, at the very least he should listen and be open to trying something, as meeting your family could be really stressful for him.

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