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May 26 15 12:58 AM

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Hey ALL! I have a concern (as my old, addict self-centered thinking comes-out!): Does my username offend any of you? I couldn't help but notice certain new usernames popping-up on here that (if someone wanted to do so) could be offensive to somebody of The Christian Faith...Doesn't bother me at all, but if my expression of my faith offends anybody, they do not need to do such things as "passive-aggressively" create a noticeable username to "offend" me or engage my  "internal" aggression...Simply notify me that it bothers you. I AM TOTALLY willing to change it! Truly, just ask...You have a right to express your beliefs just as I do, and I would not want to make "The Dawg" unfriendly or uncomfortable for ANYONE!!-If appropriate, I may express my spiritual beliefs only in a helpful response, but I REFUSE to "shove Christianity down anybody's throat". Just my thoughts.
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May 26 15 3:05 AM

Not me

It doesn't bothxr me... I remember the first time I saw it, in here years ago and remember thinking to myself ..."Here is someone that has not gone through this alone"...as many of us look toward Jesus or a higher self, being whatever...Anyway I thought an Ex Junkie for Jesus...A creative way to bring everything out in a name for recovery  For all those who want to say what some may think in not sayable, in any other way.    
So for me this is how I looked at your username...I liked it..still do
How are you doing? I feel like shit, I could be doing better if my adult child, daughter would quit making my life so CRAZY!!!


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May 27 15 12:45 AM

@Review (and others)

Thanks for your feedback, and IF you do hear of anybody who's offended/overly-annoyed by it, PLEASE DO have them let me know, and I really and truly will change it to "forced2bsecular" or something else like: "myattempt2bpc" or  "proudlynotjudging". Personally, I like "myattempt2bpc" (or possibly: "itsnoteasybeingpc")!! That would NOT be passive-agressive; It would be the truth and stating my opinion in a very passive and adequately appeasing statement. It just kind of "steams me" when many people complain that "us Christians" are disrespecting their right to Freedom of Speech or Freedom of Religion when we tell them that they are just plain WRONG about things! By their voicing their  complaint, they're stating that WE, as Christians, are not entitled to those freedoms (Freedom of Speech/Expression AND Freedom of Religion-OR-Freedom of Speech about Religion)!! I am in no way saying that anybody has done this on this site, would do this here or that it was not, in fact, mere "coincidence" (not a word that is considered a "Kosher" or religiously-acceptable word by the JEWISH RELIGION, by the way, but IS okay with nearly ALL people) that at least ONE username just happened to appear on replies to (mostly) my posts!! I DO, however, really appreciate your personal praise and encouragement of my choice of username!!😉😇😍 It's really cool to hear that somebody can appreciate my attempt to express my faith creatively and in a way that might just encourage others to see that "ex-junkies" CAN, in fact, be loved and accepted by Jesus (IF THEY SO CHOOSE)!!

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May 30 15 12:18 PM

I love your user name. In this day and time many people do not have the nerve to stand up for what they believe. You are correct in stating that Christians, are often treated with prejudices.I say, good for you,for openly standing up for Jesus!

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May 31 15 6:12 AM

The 'Jesus' thing doesn't offend me at all, but i dislike the 'junkie' thing. It's a very negative, stigmatising word that a lot of people in the recovery community try not to use because of that.

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Jun 1 15 1:51 PM

O come on....

She has not used "junkie" in any derogatory way. This is why there is an  "X" making it Xjunkie4jesus so IMO I say, stick with it..... No reason to change something that ain't broken....
I have satisfaction in my name yet I am not always satisfied... I seek satisfaction as Xjunkie seeks to stay an EX Junkie
I bet if someone wished to use this  name in  y'all's  Facebook group there would be no problem.....Also anyone truly in recovery would not rethink other people's user names, unless the name itself was derogratory.
There are much better topics, I never once saw anyone post about this it..Outside Xjunkie4jesus, herself.
Just for asking is very gracious...
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Jun 2 15 9:20 PM

How about this change?? How 2 do it?

What about: "rockinrecovery4jesus" or "recovering4jesus"?? Would either of those be ok?? I just never thought about it.

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Jun 3 15 7:28 AM

I know that XJ has not used it in a derogatory way, and I didn't say that she had. What I was explaining is that in general, the term 'junkie' is like the terms clean and dirty, and advocates in the recovery community are trying to get people to understand why it's important that we don't use terms like that.

It's not something I would have ever said to XJ unsolicited, but as she did ask I gave my opinion. There's no "problem" with anyone using whatever name they want, XJ asked for opinions and I gave mine, not sure why that's got you in such a tizz about it. If asked, I would pass the same comments on the word 'junkie' here, on Facebook, in real life, where ever, so please do not infer that I'm being hypocritical about something I am not.

XJ - your username is your own affair, if you're happy with it, leave it as it is, you don't need other people's approval.

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Jun 4 15 1:52 AM

@Sapphire and @Review

Sapphire-I certainly did not think your reply had any lecturing or derrogatory connotation to it. 

Review-I'm VERY SORRY that this conversation may (in MY observation only) have caused you to feel upset! 

To BOTH OF YOU: It was not my intention to stir-up any sort of contention here among members of "The dawg". Perhaps, (IF ANYONE REALLY FEELS IT NECESSARY), I could use "EXaddict4jesus"?? I only used "xjunkie" because that's something that gives me great pride-Knowing that nobody has ANY reasonable grounds to associate me with that word!! I've fought labels ALL my life, growing-up in The State Foster Care System ("cutter", "psycho", "group home kid", "throw-away", "unwanted") that only drove my diagnostic "labels" deeper (PTSD, Panic Disorder With Agoraphobia, Rule-Out Bipolar, Rule-Out Borderline Personality Disorder, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Major Depressive Disorder...etc).-In order to find a teenager who's "in the system" a "placement" that will take them, there HAS TO BE AT LEAST 2 "Major Axis One Diagnoses" before the "Therapeutic Placements" can relieve the teenager's guardian of the awful burden of taking care of their appropriate housing needs (dumping them onto someone else). They choose the "Therapeutic" Placements to be able to say the teen has an adequately supervised environment!! Years of that, and ANYONE would be proud to scream out-loud their pride at being relieved of EVEN ONE label!!

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Jun 4 15 1:40 PM

I am not upset,,

I am not sorry for giving my opinion on user names.... I just gave my opinion of how I see it and I guess that British cloud Sapphire rides on, sees things as upsetting when they are not.
.. So whatever you decide about your own user name is your call anyways, so please do not feel or see me as upset cuz I am not
Nice to see this forum get a little life back in it.....As I look back on what I wrote maybe it was the Facebook coment that looked like I was upset...that is for another thread
I am cool with you both..

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Jun 5 15 4:11 AM

@Review - in the recovery community, in the US as well as the UK, the words junkie. clean, dirty etc are not used any longer, as they are stigmatising, labelling us as 'less than' and basically perpetuate stigma.It's not my opinion on this, there is a whole Language Matters movement around this that amongst other people, NAMA and SAMHSA are championing.

So, it reiterate, I am in no way "upset", and I did NOT say I found it "offensive", I said I disliked it, which is completely different about the use of the word 'junkie', I was just pointing out that the word is falling out of use in the recovery community due to all the negative connotations it has.

@XJ - the majority of my above post was directed to Review, not you, so please don't get upset!! At the end of the day, it's your username, and if you want to carry on using it and are happy with it, leave it, you don't need other people's approval, and we all love you loads anyway, no matter what you username is!!

How are you getting along? I hope that you're feeling OK with the taper still? Did you manage to speak to the Dr about how much your anxiety was increasing? You're still taking Clonazepam aren't you? Is that helping at all?

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Aug 4 15 8:11 PM

WOW MY SENTIMENTS EXACTLY @review NICE TO SEE SOME STEAM ON THE FORUM...But I must say I do agree with Sapphire on the word Junkie if people want to have forum like these then they have to understand that the people who are running them and moderating them such as Sapphire are in advocacy roles therefore THEIR ROLE IS TO EDUCATE the public and CORRECT any demoralizing, stigmatizing and/or defamation regarding MMT, MAT, Recovery, Addicts etc....and wording is a big offender at times....i.e. same as the words of Patient versus Client labelings...NOTHING PERSONAL by our dear friend Sapphire who by the way and in her defense has given millions of hours of her time to fight for our patient rights and spoke up to defend us in an advocacy role for years all the way down to the concept that "WORDS MATTER"...SO, IN HER DEFENSE.... the word "X" in your  meaning  " you used to be" a Junkie does not change the word "Junkie" from being demoralizing...IN FACT, it aids in Sapphires defense giving more proof to the point there is no way to "make nice" out the word junkie in the recovery and/or advocacy arena but in the religious and/or moral aspect the word Jesus indeed does and was meant to "makes nice" in and for the XJunkie in context that the "XJunkie" has turned to Jesus.   Which is Xjunkie4jesus defense I presume .....SO ALL THIS SAID, Even if the Name was "XJunkie4methadone" sapphire's point IS as an ADVOCATE and understandably so, "Junkie" is the demoralizing and stigmatizing word AND it has nothing to do with Jesus or the word Jesus at all...I LOVE THE LORD MYSELF ........ BUT ADDICTS get called names and FOR US IN THE ADVOCACY ROLE well there exists a desire to change the meanings connotations in and of  words especially so with those that are damaging to an addict no matter whether either active or in recovery because ADDICTION is not a moral failing it is a medical illness and the word Junkie has been used to describe an addict for years but in a demoralizing pretense not so much in a medical sickness kind of way...... SO THE CONFUSION is not in the religious aspect where XJunkie4jesus felt it might have been it is in the ADVOCACY ASPECT where sapphire has spent much of her last 10 plus years maybe longer defending us against defamation and slander she can't stand for it sometimes and not other times......I BY ALL MEANS HOPE I DID NOT ADD FUEL TO THE FIRE OR INSULT TO ANY INJURY as I LOVE ALL OF YOU and I truly could understand both sides and/or points so I was trying to put some bandages on some missed meanings as the entire real point being confused as in religion vs moral dilemma.

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Aug 26 15 8:55 PM

   I'm an atheist, myself. But it's not like the idea that christians exist offends me, necessarily. In the proper time and place, I'm all about discussing religion, or the lack of it. But I don't go through life looking for ways to disagree with people. Maybe you can give some insight to someone who finds value in faith. Whereas another person could need something completely different.

   I don't mean this to sound like a hippy-dippy, "we can all get along" thing. I'm pretty outspoken about atheism and how good it was to be released from the fear that religion had over me. I was actually afraid of being rational. But this isn't about me. It's not about my experience, or anyone else but you. You do what's right for you, and stand by your own principles. If that's what you want people to know about you, then so be it. We can talk about it... or we can choose not to. Same thing goes for the "junkie" part. As long as you are OK with it, I think the worst thing that could happen is we discuss it and what it means to each of us.

   Take care,

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