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xjunkie4jesus

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May 26 14 7:44 AM

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Just so you guys don't worry, I WILL be checking in here but won't be posting 4 a bit. Things at home are such (lately) that I will wait until I can be encouraging and positive before posting anymore.
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May 26 14 1:48 PM

Just so you know, you don't always have to be positive and encouraging. It's all of our job to be there to lift up as well as to be lifted up. You're going through a big change right now, and that's why we are here. ;)

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May 27 14 12:28 AM

I just need some1 2 tell me if I'm 2 negative

I just don't want to bring anybody down!! My fiance has continued 2 have med issues that are frustrating and stressful for both of us. He's 50, I'm 29 and I understand meds. He first realized he needed them at age 46 and he hasn't had good results with meds (we've tried him on about ten). His agitation makes me SEVERELY anxious and MY anxiety makes him agitated even more... We love each other and we're both trying but it's SO hard!! When I was a screaming, violent and non-functional, improperly medicated mess (18 months), he stood by me. At LEAST HE is NOT violent towards me as I was toward him!! -He just yells and throws stuff for 30 mins at a time, but he'd NEVER hit me or hurt me!!-It's just if his shoes get in his way or dishes slip out of his hands in the sink etc.

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May 27 14 12:32 AM

We've been together for 4 yrs

After four yrs of nothing but devoted dedication to each other and HUGE love, I can't just give up-I WON'T!! He didn't give up on me and I've made HUGE progress from the days of punching him every time he agitated me!! He NEVER hit back, never would!- only held my hands down to my sides to get me 2 stop!

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May 27 14 5:14 AM

XJ - one of the purposes of a support board is that you can post when you're feeling negative, either to get things off your chest, or to get advice for whatever is making you feel down. Really, if you're feeling negative, it's definitely the time to post more, to try to work through the issues, iyswim?

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May 27 14 5:40 AM

Will do

I just have to be careful to keep the confidence of pur relationship too. In his generation "What happens in this house stays in this house". My dad's the same age and feels the exact same way.

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May 28 14 4:59 AM

Is the relationship making you happy, or does it feel like hard work? I understand that because he stood by you when you were having MH issues that you feel like you can't leave him when he's having his own issues, but you can't sacrifice your own happiness completely, iyswim?

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